How to Broach the Dreaded Topic: Asking for a Raise

Congratulations! If you’re reading this, you are at least thinking about asking for a raise. Nannies Who Care knows that the topic of salary negotiation can be intimidating, but if you start off with information and knowledge, you’re starting off on the right foot. We’ve done some research to provide you with some salary negation tools to make your goal a reality. So here, without further ado, is our absolute, number one piece of advice for a successful salary negotiation:

It’s not magic.

kid magician

Now stay with me here. You probably already guessed you aren’t going to find instructions on how to leave cookies out for a magical, raise-granting elf that will repay your gift of carbs with a fatter paycheck. You’re a sane, logical human being after all. But, that would be killer!

Before you storm away from your computer, announce loudly to your friends and family that you’ve lost faith in humanity and start plotting a move to a remote island where only people who pass a series of carefully constructed logic puzzles are granted permission to enter, consider the fact that what this really shows is how much fear people have around the topic of salary negotiation. The idea of asking your employer for more money is so frightening that it causes successful professionals to resort to magical thinking in such great numbers that it’s been captured by Google auto-suggest. No, I am not kidding.

It’s okay to be nervous. It’s okay to be scared. You see, the problem with talking about salary is that it’s something we’re taught to not talk about openly. It’s a black box.

Get Educated


Did you know…most Nannies in the United States are women, a whopping 90% in fact.

The national average hourly rate for babysitting or short-term assignments is $13.36 per hour. The national average hourly rate for full-time, permanent assignments is $18.86 per hour while International Nanny Association (INA) credentialed nannies earned a bit more, $19.96 per hour. Newborn Care Specialists and specialty nannies earned even more.

While the specific employer and experience level impact pay for this group, location is the most influential factor. The majority of Nannies claim high levels of job satisfaction.

Medical and dental benefits are awarded to less than one-tenth, and less than two percent earn vision coverage. Paid vacations are provided to 62% of full-time, permanent nannies whereby guaranteed pay whilst the family does require nanny services is provided by 71% of families.

The data in this summary comes from and the INA’s Salary Survey.

Ask for the Raise!

Asking for a raise is a stressful and often a downright awkward experience. Money is hard enough to talk about in the first place: When most people have to ask their employer for more money, their anxiety levels shoot through the roof.

If you’re not a natural negotiator, there might always be a touch of nervousness when it comes to requesting an increase in pay.  However, if you’re well-prepared, you might just find that asking is easier than you were expecting.

Believe in your worth

Imagine a car salesperson saying, “I don’t know if you’ll like this vehicle or not, but it’s pretty good, so I think you might want to try it.” Would that convince you to buy the car? Probably not. You’re more likely to be sold by the one who says “This is a great model. It’s highly reliable, fun to drive, and comes with a variety of options. In fact, I drive one myself!” Confidence sells. If you don’t believe you deserve a raise, why should you expect your employer to think so?

Don’t Go In Negative


Aggression is one of the biggest mistakes you can make when it comes to salary negotiations. When you’re coming up with your arguments, be open-minded with what you consider complaining. If it could possibly be construed as airing your grievances, cut it from your plan.

This means you shouldn’t talk about how you haven’t had a raise in years, or how you do twice as much work as most nannies. Even if these things are true, they’re not going to work in your favor.

Have a backup plan

How to Breach the Dreaded Topic: Asking for a Raise

If a raise isn’t possible now, lay the groundwork for the future. Ask for feedback on your work so you know where to improve.

Try saying something like, “I’m disappointed that it looks like an increase is not going to happen right now, but I would appreciate some feedback on my value to the family.”

In addition, ask your family what and/or how you need to improve before they will consider a raise. Make sure you follow through on those requests. At that point, you can readdress your request for a raise.

You’ve got this!

How to Broach the Dreaded Topic: Asking for a Raise

Good luck asking for your raise. If your employer values you as an employee and you have a good relationship with your family and charges, you should have a successful negotiation.

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